so i was diagnosed with PTSD. i used to sit on the edge of my bed half the night and make myself ready for him to find me and do me harm. 15 years of that. i was consumed with how to ensure my family's survival should he turn up. i put a jar of ammonia on a shelf next to the door to splash his face and buy me some time. i had the car keys on a hook by the back door and slip on shoes for me and the kids. i took some nails out of the back fence so we could fit through and run to the car. most of the time after the kids had gone to school , i would sit on the sofa with a clear view of the driveway, it was like i was in a trance, i couldnt move. i was so sure he'd find us.
anyway, back to the break through. i decided it was time to turn the tv's off and the lights off and get into bed and try to sleep. 7 hours later i woke up. i haven't had 7 hours sleep since i was a teenager. i was impressed with my efforts. another symptom of PTSD gone. i feel like i've made a grown up step forward. right now i tell myself that it's my PTSD, my mental health , not his anymore to hit and throw things at and all that he did. so its my diagnoses, not his. and with that awakening i tested out my thoughts and thats when the 7 hours of sleep happened. i am really happy to know that i can take my mind off those frightening, mind fucking days that i spent giving him my energy, my time, my fear, my obsession with keeping the 2 kids safe .
to anyone who reads this and has PTSD, i want you to know that it gets easier with time. hang in there and stay safe.
jo xoxoxox
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